Bpd woman dating married man
You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis.Your illness distorts your perceptions causing antagonistic behavior and making the world a perilous place.The pain and terror of abandonment and feeling unwanted can be so great that suicide feels like a better choice.If you like drama, excitement, and intensity, enjoy the ride, because things will never be calm. They have the quintessential Jekyll and Hyde personality.They may try to bait you into anger, then falsely accuse you of rejecting them, “gaslight you,” (make you doubt reality and your sanity – see the ), even brainwash you.In their desperation for caring, they can behave in ways that feel like emotional manipulation.
They can be vindictive and punish you with words, silence, or other tactics, which feel manipulative and can be very destructive to your self-esteem.
To do so, they try to control with commands or indirect maneuvers, including flattery and seduction, to reel in their partner and use their anger and use rejection to keep him or her at a safe distance.
Whereas narcissists enjoy being understood, too much understanding frightens the borderline.
Unlike Bi-Polar Disorder, their moods shift quickly and aren’t a departure from their normal self. Their emotions, behavior, and unstable relationships, including work history, reflect a fragile shame-based self-image, often marked by sudden shifts, sometimes to the extent that they feel nonexistent, made worse when they’re alone.
Thus, they’re dependent on others and may seek advice frequently, sometimes from several people on the same day, asking the same question.