Guys rules to dating
Start seeing technology as a useful tool to get to know guys better. Before you know it, your convos will be getting offline."Instead of trying to micromanage your love life, create open spots for men, planned or unplanned, to fill," Massa says. Until you do, a guy may not even realize you're into him.When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.Sex means different things to different people, and its importance level in someone's life isn't always the same.If you "force" yourself to have — or not have — sex at a time that doesn't feel right, you're just getting off on the wrong foot.Exactly who decided that waiting three days to get back to someone was a good idea?"We're all connected to our phones," Erika Ettin, founder and CEO of A Little Nudge and host of the podcast, “So, We Met Online,” tells Bustle. If you like someone, contact that person in a timely fashion.Don't get hung up on small things and keep the big picture in mind.
Make yourself available to who you might meet and where the evening could take you."The more you're open to letting guys show you all the different sides of themselves, the more likely you'll surprise yourself and fall in love with one of them," Massa explains. Finally, you and The Prospective Boyfriend are doing something romantic that could lead to something serious.
In her research, Massa found that millennial men are still figuring out their futures, careers, and identity, and many don't want to make a move on their potential girlfriend until they have those things figured out. So, if he's good about keeping in touch and not treating you like a hook-up, keep this guy on the short list.
You can tell he's into you if he doesn't hit on your friends and always treats you with respect. He may just need one more promotion before he gets the guts to go for you.
But discussing these things may be the way to find what you're really looking for."If you are going out on lots of first dates and find that people aren't looking for serious relationships, then ask some more serious questions," Stef Safran of Stef and the City tells Bustle.
For example, asking about politics can do more good than harm. Just as rules should be thrown out the window, so should "scheduling" when you'll have sex for the first time with someone.