Quotes from boundaries in dating
In Song of Songs, God has given us a holy and beautiful picture of a marital sexual relationship, and everyone seems to be having an excellent time.Even there, however, God is clear that sex is “Do not arouse or awaken love before it so desires.” (Song of Songs 2:7).It might have been last night or last week or last year or back in high school or college.Would you describe whatever you did as “holy and honorable,” or was it done to satisfy the “passionate lust” of you or your partner or both (1 Thessalonians 4:4-5)?We are to do this in light of what God has done for us in Christ and in light of Christ’s impending return. For God did not call us to be impure, but to lead a holy life.Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his holy spirit.” Look closely at verse 6.The simple answer is that every believer to whom I am not married is my brother or sister in Christ, and I am to act accordingly. Honor one another above yourselves.”); Romans 13:8-14, especially vv. Love does no harm to its neighbor.”); 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, especially v. More specifically, 1 Timothy 5:1-2 reiterates the “family” metaphor among believers and instructs us about how we are to treat our fellow members of the body of Christ: This is a didactic (teaching) passage generally instructing us about how to relate to other “family members” among God’s people. With the exception of husbands and wives, there is “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; .
between men and women who are not romantically involved are OK.
Whatever you did, as you now think about it, does it inspire a comfortable peace or an uncomfortable shudder to remember that Father, Son and Holy Spirit observed it all?
Do you believe God was glorified or grieved by what He saw? I can tell you from literally hundreds of emails and personal conversations that the only people who really attempt to justify premarital sexual involvement (with a few exceptions for “just kissing”) are those who would like to engage in it in the future or who are currently engaging in it.
In 1 Corinthians 7:3 and following, Paul says once we are married, our bodies literally belong to our spouse; he also instructs spouses to meet one another’s sexual needs and to be together regularly so as to protect ourselves from falling into ungodly lust and extramarital sexual activity.
If you have any doubts about God’s intention to give us sex as a wonderful, pleasurable gift, Song of Songs should put them to rest.